When someone feels they’ve been betrayed, that their security has been violated, that they have been deceived, that their values have been stepped on, or they are ashamed of what they’ve done, if they keep this violation to themselves, or share it only with friends, walled off from the enemy, then resentment builds, and violence gets taken out on other people – at the company, at customers, on family and friends in personal life, and on themselves.

Any time someone says, “they” or “them” and hide rather than name the person or people responsible, or shrug “what can you do” when they blame the workplace situation, that person is dissociating themselves from owning up to the situation.  This dissociation – literally to remove yourself, to hide your soul from your work and your relationships, to blame others for your actions and your life – creates a double self, and kills companies.

Action and healing must come from your bond with other people, including with one person you are avoiding by calling “them.”